Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Today we tell my boys...

Well after many sleepless nights, I have realised that we are most likely going to have to move.  If we stay here hubby's job prospects are pretty slim to say the least.  Victoria, as much as I hate it, does offer more in the way of jobs, not only for hubby but probably also for my boys too.

Finding a house in our price range is going to be a problem and I can see we will need a much larger mortgage than we currently have, either that or we will end up with a house both smaller and not necessarily as nice as we have now (not that this house is a show home by any means but you know what I mean lol).  We are going to have to just make the best of it.

The whole scenario scares the pants off me.  I guess I have led a pretty secluded life really.  Moving house is something I have only done 4 times in my life and not something I enjoy doing.  Its funny in a way that every time I start pulling a house apart and redecorating, is the time we need to sell.  Right now this house has no floor coverings in our front lounge room,   the front half the house has no curtains as they all needed replacing, the toilet door is mismatched from the rest and doesn't close properly as hubby can't seem to get it to fit right into the door frame (yes the door frame is warped as we have discovered!), we have a kitchen with no tiles on the walls and it is just a sea of patchwork plaster, and then of course we have 1/4 of the house freshly painted while the rest needs doing,,,,,,,don't even mention the garden!!!!  The same thing happened last time I moved which was when my ex and I found this house and fell in love with it.  I had just started painting the old house and had pulled down curtains etc.

Tonight we are going to tell my kids.  By "we" I mean hubby.  I already know that I will get too emotional and this just won't get us anywhere.  Hubby will do the talking and I just hope I don't have 4 explosions happen.  I know my Mr17 will just stay quiet and I think Mr15 will be likely to just walk away and say nothing,,,,they younger two, well they are likely to give Mount Vesuvius a run for its money I believe!  After that, Hubby needs to arrange to meet up with Miss13 to tell her and I'm not sure how she will take it, I have no clue on that one.

The positive aspects I am going to be talking to the kids about is the "we have a whole new city/state to explore".  We have snow country within our reach, Phillip Island penguins, a zoo that has elephants and gorillas, the aquarium, Ballarat isn't that far away,,,,,the list goes on.  I know that from a weekend perspective there will be so much we can do, if we can manage to save a bit of money (big IF on that one I think but anyway,,,,)

I am trying to look at the positives today.  Trying not to think about having no friends or family near me.  Thinking of all the crap in the house we can get rid of before we move lol, it could be the fresh, less cluttered life I have been striving for.

I think I can, I think I can.......


7 comments:

Jen R said...

Thinking of you xx

Niki said...

This could be just what you need. Life is what you make it, so you may as well be postive. I love everything about Melbourne. It would just be my boys. mmmm. Goodluck with your beautiful boys.

Nicole Watson said...

We live in Victoria now, you can come and visit us! Haha, I know it is seriously scary looking at moving interstate, but I hope it goes well for you. Blessings Nicole :)

Becky said...

Here is to it all going off better than you r expectations. And may the "perfect" house just be waiting for you there.

Joolzmac said...

I've never been in that situation before so it's easy to say 'it'll be okay' when you are scared shitless!

I hope you can find happiness there and if not, maybe a better job for hubby and you might come along. What are your interests? - maybe you could embrace the move and plan a part time job for yourself - the schools may be a valuable resource for this.

Wishing you well,

Joolz

Alicia said...

I've been through this, with a move from Victoria (Geelong) to Brisbane in QLD. Luckily for me, it only ended up being for 9 months, and we came home when I was pregnant with number 2. I had a real struggle coming up with positives (and I just can't stand hot weather!). Big hugs, it's not easy, and I only had a one year old at the time. Good luck!

Annmarie Pipa said...

oh dear...good luck! kids are resilient.